Thursday, February 18, 2016

We walk together but alone

On Wed, I met up with 2 financial bloggers. Though it's not the first time we met, the online conversation spilled over to face to face interaction and before long, we chatted for nearly 5 hours just like that. This is shorter than the 6 hours I spent a few months ago here. My wife would probably lament that 3 grown men can chat longer than 3 aunties lol! There's usually a lot more sharing of personal experiences during such face to face interactions, because some things just can't be said online. It might be rude, might be crude, or might be politically incorrect, so face to face meeting is still good for such topics. 

I think as financial bloggers, we're really an odd bunch of people. We don't really fit into mainstream and what's interesting is that we're probably okay and comfortable sitting in an outlier position. I guess most of us are lone rangers - and we have to be in order to take some bitter pills and bash through the jungle to carve out our own paths that nobody really understand and might even vehemently opposes to. Like squirreling a huge portion of our salary aside. Like putting money into the stock market when others are running away from it. Or even simple things like bringing your own meals to work to save our health and wealth. Others might feel we're shortchanging ourselves but we know better.

I think people either get it or they don't. It's not that financial bloggers are all about money. Actually no, we're all about recapturing back our life and our values and not being interested in what non stakeholders demand of us. It's like the donkey, the man and the boy story. Some people might want the man to sit on the donkey, some might want the boy to sit on the donkey and some might want the both man and boy to carry the donkey. Please all and you will please none. For that to happen, we have to experiment and try out what we really want for ourselves. 

I'm very proud to know these 2 financial bloggers who had the courage to do what they need to do and ignore the naysayers. I know it's not easy and the journey is made tougher by blogging about some of the personal stuff online, exposing a part of your core to public scrutiny. Though we will always have to travel through our own journey alone, let us travel together for this small part of the road together.

And that's what this blog is for. Not to boast about what I've done, not to get passive income from ads, and not to teach you how to be this and do that. If readers get inspired to follow, that's a bonus. I'm really blogging to see who are the kindred spirits. You're either get it or you don't. If you are, we can walk together but alone, at least for a while.


Sillyinvestor said...

Erh... Bo chio...

Just kidding, how I wish I could join u guys/gals, but likely wed is out anyway.

Walk together but alone, sound very sad lei.

I read the heading remind me of couples staying together bond by a piece of paper or bed but are already strangers Lol

Actually, I dun smell fear at the bloggersphere. Maybe smell fear at cocktail talks la. Like I just heard banks will keep going down, Blar Blar ... But bloggersphere all I have is buy buy buy

Createwealth8888 said...

Strong war chest. Can buy and buy. LOL!

Anonymous said...

Hi lp

Thanks for the great post. My pleasure to have walk this journey together with you and the fellow bloggers.

The experience of pursuing dreams are amazing. Hopefully the destination is equally tasty.

Sanye ◎ 三页 said...

Hi LP,

Do we really "walk together"? I don't think so. At best we are walking on the same path heading towards the same direction, but alone....

If we pool our resources together and set up an investment fund, then we are walking together.

Have a great day!

la papillion said...

Hi SI,

You're very right. I don't see any fear in the blogosphere, but then again, we should be the last one to feel the fear. Nobody will blog that they are afraid, but you might see lesser and lesser post and more bloggers gone MIA when they stopped blogging. That might be a sign, haha

la papillion said...


I still see a lot of people with huge warchest :) How to drop more when it's like that? haha

la papillion said...

Hi Sanye,

Well, it depends on how far you zoomed out, haha :) We're all walking under the same skies, so we're all in this together. However, we're also alone doing our own walking, doing our own thinking. Makes you think hard what it means by together huh? Even if we set up an investment fund, we might be less 'together' haha

Singapore Man of Leisure said...


The financial bloggers you talking about are "hobbyist" bloggers.

Contrast with "commercial" financial bloggers (nothing wrong as everyone has to make a living) the differences are night and day ;)

We can ask our maids to carry our fullpacks for us; we can't ask others to do the walking for us.

Some journeys we have to do the walking ourselves...

Some journeys its wiser to get a chauffeur ;)

la papillion said...


Indeed, they are hobbyist type, haha :)

Very true! Some journeys we have to do it alone, and nobody can do it for us. Can't outsource one, haha!

Rolf Suey said...

Hi LP,

I am a Liverpool fan. YNWA is our logo.. I think only the fans never walk alone. The team maybe never walk alone (physically) but they walk alone (mentally), that is why keep losing.

So walking alone PHYSICALLY ok! but not alone MENTALLY!

During good times, many people will be very active and be your friend. When the tough time is here, all the “pig and dog” friends will be gone! The one who remains are the truly worthy ones, albeit not the most fun friends to be with.

I agree with you on the bloggers MIA, but only partially. They are still around, just that blogged less about stocks or investment nowadays. Because “how to be so choon!” like they are during the good times, because stocks only go up! So the once Gurus now also start to become GuGu!

When the tide is off, you can truly see who are the naked ones!

Hi SI – It is all he! No she! LP mentioned 3 men!

I was thinking if got “many she” can jio me! Haha!

No lar…hopefully one day we will meet in real! Bring a young lady along also! Haha…

la papillion said...

Hi Rolf,

Haha, I'm not a soccer fan, but even I have heard of Liverpool's motto ;)

There's only a few financial bloggers who are females...perhaps I can think of only 3 or 4? Haha, most are males, so no hope there ;) Unless someone doing a Mulan somewhere hehe

Unknown said...

Totally understand the feeling. YNWA!

la papillion said...

Hi temperament,

I've no idea! But one thing for sure is that you don't need to be a financial blogger to be successful financially lol

It's not even a prerequisite.

la papillion said...

Hi PT trooper,

Thanks for dropping in to leave a comment or two ;)