Choose the right marriage partner

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I was flipping through one of Napoleon Hill's books when I saw that one of the pointers to achieve success is to find the right partner. How true! It is important to get the right partner to achieve success, otherwise the journey to success will be made extraordinary difficult. I share with you two true stories of people who seemingly found the wrong partner.


1. A pHd research scholar thought he found a perfect partner. Her partner works in a financial institution, from a well to do family too. They got married last year. However, shortly after marriage, the wife got retrenched. The funny thing is that while the work stops, the spending continues. In fact, she spent even more money - perhaps to fill the void where pride once occupied. She also did not try to look for a job, thinking that her husband would take care of her. Thus, the poor husband will slog at work just to give her a fat allowance to spend. In some months, he had to cut the allowance given to his parents. That's not all, he had to ask money from his parents to tide over certain months.

Recently, the wife asked the husband to give her access to his accounts. A big fight between the guy's family and her wife soon erupted. Who won?

The wife.

Comments: It's hard for a guy to concentrate on work when there is no peace in the family. Haven't they sort out their finances before they got married? If they had talked about certain issues before marriage, this sort of thing wouldn't have happened. Yes, there would be a big fight before marriage - but if all is sorted out there, things would be much smoother in the future.

Some people go through the dating process without doing actual fact finding work - they just enjoy. I can't remember who said this (KK or bro8888) - Open both eyes before marriage, close one eye after marriage. How true.




2. An engineer turned teacher as a mid career switch, drawing a pay of maybe 4k, goes around nightspots for fun. Things got way out of hand when a lady she met got pregnant. That lady is not a local. That guy then went on to marry this lady, thus exacerbating his financial situation.

a. She cannot work here and speaks no Chinese or English, thus it must be a single income family. One would query how the guy can even converse with her and what about the baby? This is Singapore - without the proper introduction into the languages we're going to use in the education system when the baby is young, the baby is going to have a very very sad teenage years.

b. She gave birth to a kid last year. The guy's mum is not happy with her at all because she didn't care much about the baby. In the end, the guy had to shift out, got a 5 room flat and is now paying his ass off.

c. He owns a car for a long long time already, but the loan is still >5 yrs? Why? He keep changing cars every now and then, thus digging and digging deeper into his grave. It's amazing how, by changing cars constantly, you can drive several new cars but none of them are truly yours. Just amazing.

d. Every 2 weeks or so, there'll be a big fight and the wife would carry the baby and go missing for a few days. WTH?

Comments: I wouldn't look for a wife in a nightspot, enough said. Classic case of a trader turned investor because the price went down lower than entry price. I hope his situation can turn for the better.