Friday, August 12, 2011


Lately I'm not in a very good mood. I think I'm in quite a stressful part of my life as a lot of things are happening at the same time. Stress is when you are caught in a situation where you are not familiar with, yet you have to perform it as perfectly as possible because the consequence matters. So how do I extricate myself out from this stressful position?

1. Familiarize yourself with the situation

Practice will help to familiarize yourself with the new situation. However, it's not that we can practice and practice. Sometimes the important things in life, you can only do it once and once only. There's no second chance or third chances either because the consequences are hard to bear with or simply that there are no more occurrences.

2. Don't aim for perfection

If you do not aim for 100%, the stress level would be reduced but not eliminated. That should help a great deal in certain situation. I think for a perfectionist, anything less than perfect is unacceptable. I would say that I used to be a perfectionist, but it's such a miserable to be one and it's miserable to be near one, and so, I have to change. Try my best and let god do the rest, I always say.

3. Make light of the consequence

Perhaps the consequence isn't that bad, if you think more in depth about it. Okay, maybe not in depth, but philosophically about it. Life has many forks and just because the pathway you chose is blocked doesn't mean you can't get back to the same path through another lane. I think understanding that most decisions are small and insignificant towards the really important things in life would help to alleviate that stress.

I'll try to remember that 'stressed' spelt backwards is 'desserts'.


financialray said...

Life is about overcoming obstacles and nobody usually has a life that is plain sailing.
However, when adversities seem overwhelming, it may be worthwhile to take a step back, perhaps consider lowering expectations or recognising that things cannot be perfect and has to be accepted as it is.
Dispel anger and animosity.If it is something not within your control, then do not stoke self-hatred or hatred for others, for it is self punishment for others' misdeeds or circumstances not due to your own fault. Accept and move on and may inner peace be with you.

la papillion said...

Hi financialray,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. That's very good advice.

coconut said...

oh what did you know, i too was a perfectionist! and i cant change it.

and you are absolutely right, its painful and frastrated to be one. you just have to learn to let go and relax.

but you will do well in what you like the most.

PanzerGrenadier said...


One day at a time.

Count your blessings.

Remember to do deep breathing!

Be well and prosper.

km coaching said...

hi bully the bear. hope to know you. wanna have a meal.

Ao said...

Hey LP, everything seems very trivial in the grand scheme of things. Maybe you disagree, but i remember how important i thought PSLE was at that stage of my life, now looking back it just seems so insignificant. Hopefully it'll be the same in the future :)


what are futures said...

I always remember this saying when times get tough - "When times are bad, dont lose your heart, when times are good, dont lose your head"

la papillion said...

Hi coconut,

You are a perfectionist too? haha, it's going to be hard being a perfectionist and a trader, so I heard :)

I agree, we have to learn to let go. Just like flying a kite, sometimes, you have to let it go to allow the kite room to fly higher.

Hi PG,

Thanks bro, I'll take it one step at a time :)

Hi kmcoaching,

U serious?

la papillion said...

Hi ao, the view that we're insignificant in the bigger scheme of things, that is indeed humbling.

I am very sure looking back, things are not as important as we deem it to be at the present moment.

Hi waf (what are futures),

I like that quotation. Thanks for sharing it with me :)

coconut said...

oh yes its hard to be a trader, almost give up at one point.

but once i pass the hurdle and be more relax and a "don't care" attitude, its like flying a kite.