Just do it

What is it with humans? We crave for the comforts and security of routine but get frustrated and bored by the very same things that we do again and again. We want to experience adventure yet fear the road that lies ahead. We want to be do the same thing that we did yesterday yet we get bored by them in the end. I've talked to people who complained about their lot in life. For every suggestion that I offered, but they shot me back with 10 reasons why it can't be done. It left me thinking that perhaps they do not want to solve their problems at all, but is contented to have bragging rights to others about their pitiful and sad circumstances.



I am guilty of such negativity too. But I fight against it. In fact, I fight against the very nature of complaining to others about my own problems. I believe that everyone has their own problems to solve, and probably they only have enough energy to just bear it through. A good friend might want to share your problems by hearing you out, but to what end? At the end of the day, and all that is to be said is vented out, you are still the person to clear up the mess. The person who unties the bell still has to be the same person who tied it in the first place, to translate from a chinese saying.



I will also not wallow in self pity. In my deepest depression a few years ago, I know the spiritual harm that this does to me. Every thing in the universe seems to conspire against you when you indulge in self pity. I use the word 'indulge' because like wine, you get intoxicated in the inebriety of it all. Work, surprisingly, is the one that compels me to leave my sorrow self out of my home. From my deepest depression, I learnt a few things about my character. I wish I didn't had to go through it but having experienced it, I am quite certain I would not be in it again. I remember vividly how difficult it is to cold-turkey myself against all the pessimism that my mind constructed and how hard it is to dig myself out of the hole of self pity. I am all the stronger because of it.

With your shield in hand and your sword ready, brace yourself for the good fight ahead!

I believe that in order to succeed, a person must overcome your own limiting characteristics. If I have to change my quiet nature in order to succeed, I would do that. Likewise, if the ability to take hardship and be disciplined is limiting my path towards success, I would have to train myself to be disciplined and to endure hardships. Many many would complain about their own specific set of circumstances that leaves them unable to compete on an equal basis with those who, because of their birthright and family relationships, are more well to do. Life is never fair, and the sooner you come to terms with it, the faster you can get past the different starting line of this race and try to catch up with those who had already started running. Be-Do-Have instead of Have-Do-Be.



The whole point of this article is to psych myself up for the trials and challenges that lie so clearly ahead of me. The chess pieces are almost in place. If I can also motivate you in the process, then this article would have done it's job for the two of us.