Sunday, May 24, 2020

What I'm grateful about

The days just zoom past quickly during the lockdown. The hours are long but the days are fast. We're nearing the end of the official lockdown period but it seems that even after the official period, life is pretty much the same. We still can't go out to restaurants to eat, and still can't resume life in general before covid-19. And who knows how long this will last for?

It's good to have the right mindset when dealing with things beyond your control. But before that, we need to know what we can control. I'm still shoring up my reserves in case this last longer than next year, and that means holding more cash as emergency cash. Beyond that, with regards to the stability of future income, or even dividends income, we have to let go. Or rather, let it be

There are a few things that I'm grateful for, despite the circumstances:

1. There's still work that I can do online

I can understand that there are people whose work is affected. Even if they want to do it online, they also can't. My heart goes out to them. I think in these times, you will know if your work is just merely for paying the bills or does it serve other important purposes in life, like social needs and fulfilling some meaning in your life.

Stay at home can be fun too

2. Family and friends are well and healthy

There are no major health issues with important and significant people around me. Boredom perhaps, but it's a matter of perspectives. Beyond bread and butter issues, I think people do need to worry about their mental health. No point being well-fed, sheltered but mad. Maybe being an introvert helps a lot because I find that I'm perhaps more busy and productive than usual, as I do not have to be drained of energy by going out. I'm recharged by the things that drain other more outward-looking people (like my wife) haha! Introverts, the tide has turned!

3. Relationships are better

Let me explain. I see a lot of heartwarming things that I don't see often. Neighbours bringing some groceries to our household when they have extra. We, bringing some cooked food to others to help out. I'll source out jobs offerings to others who had lost their jobs, especially in the tourism/airport sector. Some of the parents of my students lost their jobs, so I also help out by offering lower rates for my tuition services. I mean, I do what I can within my capabilities, to see if I can make someone's life better during these hard times. I'm sure many others are doing the same too. There's something good out of this whole shitty situation, isn't it?

4. The important things distil out

Sometimes life is funny, in the sense that only when shit happens then you will realise what is most important to you. To find out what is most important, you just strip off things one by one and see how it feels like. This lockdown period is the best chance to do an accounting of what's important and what's good to have. 



I like to remember these strange times as being forced to be introspective. Will I worry about income? Sure, of course. But beyond a certain level of preparation, there's nothing much else I can do, and so I'll just concentrate on the things that I can do. 

Stay strong, stay united, Singapore.

18 comments :

Createwealth8888 said...

Now I understand that even walking in the park is not free and easy anymore. We have lost control to choose our own way for such simple activity but to follow the Rules! LOL!

la papillion said...

Hi bro8888,

True. Never seen this kind of thing before.

temperament said...

Now wouldn't one be grateful born a Singaporean and not an American?

Though Singapore is just a little RED DOT.

i do.

la papillion said...

Hi temperament,

I think both have their advantages and disadvantages. Instead of seeing whether we are Americans or Singaporeans, wouldn't it be better to see ourselves as citizens of the world instead. I think part of the problem of the current times is that there are too many nationalist where every country just want to take care of themselves. I think it's not wrong, but we can also take care of ourselves and not kick others in the face while doing so.

All it takes is our attitude that we are all from Earth.

temperament said...

It seems U understand what i am trying to say, that the President of USA now and what he is trying to do......as long as he got elected.

In Singapore any thing about politics base on race is ban as we have had gone through racial riots which were very scary and self destructing to Nation Building.

All these happened in my time.

i sincerely hope it never, ever happens again.

gagmewithaspoon said...

Yes, I do agree this lock down is easier for introverts. My whole family is doing alright at home. I've never found so much time to do the things I wanted - like exercise, cook and bake more with my kids, thinking of craft work for them, bible stories to watch together. More time to tell bed time stories, make up games. we even download an piano app to learn piano together! of course, we worry about the money and finances, and I so amazed that no one (at least not on my Instagrams and my mother groups) seem worried about money. lots of feasting going on on those feeds - cocktails, lobster rolls. wow!

la papillion said...

Hi temperament,

Agree. I think for the newer generation, race is seldom a point of contention. But it might be because I'm the Chinese majority, so reality might be different for the minority races. I can't speak for them, but from my perspective, it seems that socio-economic class is a much more serious point of contention than race. What I mean is that a upper class chinese is more similar to a upper class Indian; race is not the issue these days.

If what I observed is true, then racial riots is not something we have to worry about. There will be more riots based on inequality of income and opportunities, rather than race. And these will be more and more common until the inequality is resolved.

la papillion said...

Hi GMWAS,

Haha, sounds like your whole family is having fun :) That's the way to go about. I guess family is very important to you, hence you find that the extra time can be channeled into more family time.

Not saying your mother group and instagram friends are faking it, but I think seldom do pple post things that shows the more negative side of their emotions. I mean, if an alien comes and visit our social media platforms, or even look at photographs of humans, it will think humans are a very happy lot, always smiling and having fun! So, maybe have to factor in survivorship bias of social media postings due to self censorship LOL

Sillyinvestor said...

Hi LP,

I went back to work today. I must say I really miss seeing my pupils, and is really happy to see them face to face.

I am also grateful that this CB also given me.more time. Before this, we are always planning this and doing that, even during the holidays. I am very glad to have me time to research and read.

However, given more time at hand, looking at stocks does create some anxiety which I usually does not have. But it is very easy to reframe it, like u say it, being worried about the stock market and how my counter did is definitely more blessed than worrying when my next pay is coming

Sillyinvestor said...

So happy to taste the hawker food near my school again today too... Hahaha

Rolf Suey said...

Worst times is the best times if only you can reflect and learn!

A lot of the successful companies were set up during crisis!

la papillion said...

Hi SI,

Haha, all the little things yes? Let me meet face to face with students first, then i'll tell you if I miss online lessons. So far, I don't mind online lessons, because it gives me lots of advantages both in teaching and also in scheduling with students. I might miss it when face to face is resumed haha

Market keeps going up, I don't worry about stock market now. Let it roll :)

la papillion said...

Hi ROLF,

Indeed, why waste a crisis? Either make money out of it, or learn some lessons and grow stronger. Either way, it's all good :)

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