tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post8957109218351939095..comments2024-03-28T18:20:20.744+08:00Comments on BULLy the BEAR: The problem with gritla papillionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-61034947875800722862018-11-12T13:56:28.406+08:002018-11-12T13:56:28.406+08:00Hello Everybody,
My name is Mrs Sharon Sim. I live...Hello Everybody,<br />My name is Mrs Sharon Sim. I live in Singapore and i am a happy woman today? and i told my self that any lender that rescue my family from our poor situation, i will refer any person that is looking for loan to him, he gave me happiness to me and my family, i was in need of a loan of $250,000.00 to start my life all over as i am a single mother with 3 kids I met this honest and GOD fearing man loan lender that help me with a loan of $250,000.00 SG. Dollar, he is a GOD fearing man, if you are in need of loan and you will pay back the loan please contact him tell him that is Mrs Sharon, that refer you to him. contact Dr Purva Pius,via email:(urgentloan22@gmail.com) Thank you.Mrs Sharon Simhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14294402782501860879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-15201465632241057212018-08-15T22:22:53.039+08:002018-08-15T22:22:53.039+08:00I like the illustrated example.I like the illustrated example.finneganhttp://dailytwocents.com/is-jupiter-ascending-based-on-a-book/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-85015932725464468002018-08-10T23:56:01.948+08:002018-08-10T23:56:01.948+08:00i think one can't sure of one vision after few...i think one can't sure of one vision after few tuning & adjustment<br />vision also changes during various stages of life<br /><br />for adult, since they are already in working world. so have more channels to seek guidance, affirmation<br /><br />but youngsters, if parents not guiding them, i guess they seek guidance from media TV on what they should do. you should have notice many prefers to be project superstar, models, footballers, chef. so who wants to study?<br /><br />not sure how relevant, but a good read<br />http://baby.sina.com.cn/wemedia/edu/2017-02-22/doc-ifyarmcu6097506.shtmlsimplefolknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-33882078131905804882018-08-10T09:15:27.714+08:002018-08-10T09:15:27.714+08:00Hi simplefolk,
May I ask how does one be sure of ...Hi simplefolk,<br /><br />May I ask how does one be sure of one's vision, esp at a young age? I personally don't have a vision of what I want to do until very recently. Even then, it seems that it changes when I thought it to be permanent.la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-38618034925292406392018-08-10T00:14:42.556+08:002018-08-10T00:14:42.556+08:00normally youngsters (unless good parenting / mento...normally youngsters (unless good parenting / mentoring drives them) usually lack long term vision & unsure of what they want. so they end up emulating whatever they saw on TV, MTV, movies etc or maybe their favorite uncles / aunties<br /><br />while grit is important, it's even more important to be very sure of ones vision.<br />i think most of the time, they may think they found their vision only to become unsure of themselves later. that's where good parents & mentors can help<br /><br />low ses parents in the past weren't very concerned here, they are probably interested child getting good grades. if you fail you get caning.<br /><br />so yes grit is poor judgement of child talents ... blame the parents hahahaha ...<br />simplefolknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-92040710581248289322018-08-05T00:35:57.683+08:002018-08-05T00:35:57.683+08:00Hi temperament,
I also believe anyone can learn o...Hi temperament,<br /><br />I also believe anyone can learn on their own. That's a better guide to see who is educated, rather than looking at certifications. You might not have the certs to show to others, but you are certainly educated.la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-86990934719755052252018-08-04T16:00:12.845+08:002018-08-04T16:00:12.845+08:00Hi temperament,
Why don't you share with me? ...Hi temperament,<br /><br />Why don't you share with me? hahala papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-33426139963731997132018-08-02T22:53:48.099+08:002018-08-02T22:53:48.099+08:00Hi EY,
Yup, I remembered you saying you only have...Hi EY,<br /><br />Yup, I remembered you saying you only have financial aspiration but not career aspirations :)<br /><br />It's true if we do what motivates us, grit is not so important. Grit is only used only we are doing things we don't want to be doing. There's value in it, of course, but we have to stop every now and then and ask ourselves why are we doing it in the first place :)la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-32686400397065239902018-08-02T20:19:10.574+08:002018-08-02T20:19:10.574+08:00Hi LP,
Every so often we latch on to a new buzzwo...Hi LP,<br /><br />Every so often we latch on to a new buzzword that merely gives the old wine a new bottle. 'Grit' is exactly that.<br /><br />I grew up being told I had been underachieving and that I was capable of better results if I worked 'harder'. Even at work, the bosses would tell me I'm capable of making 'greater contributions'. Whatever the euphemism, it is simply that they expect me to work my ass off (without more pay that commensurate with the additional efforts). I didn't see and still don't on how grit is going to make me more 'successful' when my success is defined by happiness?!? Unless I'm a rabbit, dangling a carrot isn't gonna work and neither am I the tiger in the circus that would succumb at a crack of the whip. <br /><br />For someone like me who enjoy being distracted by a load of things, keeping my nose to the grindstone all day on one thing just doesn't cut it. Having been on the other side of the fence, I know what not to tell my boys. <br /><br />We do what motivates us. Motivation and grit are two ends of a continuum. The more we have of one, the less we need of the other. :)<br /><br />EYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07808509235536260830noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-81993072747988099092018-08-02T16:39:27.777+08:002018-08-02T16:39:27.777+08:00Hi temperament,
Thanks for dropping by :)
I thin...Hi temperament,<br /><br />Thanks for dropping by :)<br /><br />I think 'determined' depends on context haha, but regardless of what she means, she wants to encourage you. So that's the more important thing to me. la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-61501358384137774342018-07-31T21:26:36.075+08:002018-07-31T21:26:36.075+08:00Hi Mrs Spoon,
I think someone has an agenda when ...Hi Mrs Spoon,<br /><br />I think someone has an agenda when they throw some buzzwords, especially when it's to be applied to others. Nassim Taleb will call this game 'skin in the game'. It's easy to say this and say that when the people saying have all the upside and no apparent downside. Our job is to see through the murkiness and the fog and try to steer our ship in the direction we want.<br /><br />Thanks for dropping by :)la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-22940901526465144552018-07-31T21:24:17.799+08:002018-07-31T21:24:17.799+08:00Hi SMOL,
I think definitely a lot messier. But it...Hi SMOL,<br /><br />I think definitely a lot messier. But it's also up to the parents to lose control a little so that they can fly higher. Very much like flying a kite :) Suitably timing of loosening and tightening will make sure the kite's string is always taut. Requires a lot of wisdom, and hopefully, I am able to do so :)<br /><br />la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-53501207475781099062018-07-31T14:19:09.688+08:002018-07-31T14:19:09.688+08:00Everyday,Push a big stone up the mountain and let ...Everyday,Push a big stone up the mountain and let it roll down.Repeat everyday.hehe.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-18856165131753757472018-07-31T11:03:44.639+08:002018-07-31T11:03:44.639+08:00Wow, this is a very thought provoking article.
I...Wow, this is a very thought provoking article. <br /><br />I used to think that if you don't work hard, then you deserve what you get. If you did not bother studying hard when you were younger, then you deserve that lousy paying job. The same idea that if you do not have grit or resilience, then you get what you deserve. As I grew older, I found out that lots of people did not get what they deserve, some got more some got less. Some is obvious that they did not deserve what they were being served with in life - like ill health, bad circumstances; some not so, maybe due to circumstances they joined the wrong crowd, due to lack of self-esteem they craved acceptance elsewhere. these people are harder to identify with, but they don't always deserve the tragic circumstances they end up in. indeed, there but for the grace of God, goes i. <br /><br />I also like what you said about being careful on who's calling out these ideology. The buzzword now is creativity and entrepreneurship. why? coz that is what the current economy calls for. You don't hear these words in the 80s - it was all about discipline and tenacity. Why? we needed factory workers and middle management then. Why is self-reliance such a buzz word as well? doesn't family mean that we can support and rely on each other? so that society can reduce welfare and social services? we like to say that families that chose to have more children have themselves to blame, and they shouldn't expect any help at all. or if you are sick and old, perhaps euthanasia should be an option. what good does these serve? the economy or human dignity? <br /><br />a lot of food for thought. <br /><br />Mrs Spoon. gagmewithaspoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12108225800257809452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-26904065929093958432018-07-31T09:49:52.626+08:002018-07-31T09:49:52.626+08:00LP,
You are better at throwing stones into glass ...LP,<br /><br />You are better at throwing stones into glass houses than me ;)<br /><br />Words are powderful right? <br /><br />Especially when we used it on others; and not other people's meaningless soundbites affect us/<br /><br /><br />When I want to do cheerleading or encourage you to continue in the same direction, I'll say true grit to your face. Don't give up! If you think you can, you can! Where's your conviction? Soldier on!<br /><br /><br />But now I want to steer you into another direction, I'll knock your head and say insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result!? Hello! Wake up!<br /><br /><br />I'll be the bad guy and say it out loud. <br /><br />It may take a lifetime to purge the poison our parents have unwittenly implanted in us. <br /><br />Encouraging kids to think and figure things out for themselves is a lot messier than simply just telling them to do as they were told! <br /><br />You are a thinking parent ;)<br /><br /><br /><br />Singapore Man of Leisurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13774067113884418001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-80760901088793820982018-07-30T21:42:25.217+08:002018-07-30T21:42:25.217+08:00Hi SI,
What you said is very true. When results c...Hi SI,<br /><br />What you said is very true. When results come into the picture, the whole beautiful scene is tainted. It's really good to see a person showing good attitude, whatever the outcome is.la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-63563840287732295672018-07-30T21:41:12.610+08:002018-07-30T21:41:12.610+08:00Hi UN,
Woah, I didn't know you are one of the...Hi UN,<br /><br />Woah, I didn't know you are one of the arcade music gamer :) I used to frequent arcades too, perhaps too much. But you won't see me at the music machines, nor the fighting games, nor the race cars...cos I'll be at the shooting games hahala papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-37543774806685272412018-07-30T21:20:54.497+08:002018-07-30T21:20:54.497+08:00I think at a young age, grit is a great value. We ...I think at a young age, grit is a great value. We all know life is not a bed of roses. <br /><br />Even if we are doing what we like, we need grit to have mastery. Think of sports, we all start off as fun. The learning curve is easy in the beginning, then the beauty of the sports start when u have to sweat it out to improve. To condition your muscles so that your reflexes is built in and u are not actually thinking when that ball flies at u at 50 km per hour . <br /><br />But, where does all the tainted lenses come in? Beside shepherd who try to send sheeps to their shavers, it's about results.<br /><br />Who said a wonderful sportsman need to represent the country or win trophy, otherwise it's a waste of talent? <br /><br />Who set those benchmarks and milestones ... So that every hurdle cross is a medal of grit on the chest.<br /><br />Grit is dogmatic because I feel it worth it, the rest is bullshit. Sillyinvestorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03228581533460899084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-42550248857571643222018-07-30T20:23:22.350+08:002018-07-30T20:23:22.350+08:00Hi LP,
"When a gamer sits at home all day to...Hi LP,<br /><br />"When a gamer sits at home all day to work on his Xbox, that too is grit."<br /><br />This reminds me of two incidents (one I seen firsthand, another I heard before)<br /><br />As an arcade music gamer, I recall playing with a pro who failed to get 100% perfect for a difficult song. In anger, he whack the arcade machine and violently shook it.........while I was standing next to him. :O<br /><br />Another I heard was too engrossed with perfecting the song and hit a passerby who was not self-aware that music gamers are very space-conscious. :OUnintelligent Nerdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17797052565143872922noreply@blogger.com