tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post2126695461903346110..comments2024-03-19T19:16:19.016+08:00Comments on BULLy the BEAR: What are your reasons for having kids?la papillionhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-27340565912978955182012-01-09T17:22:33.482+08:002012-01-09T17:22:33.482+08:00Hi Mei,
Haha, I think it's every responsible ...Hi Mei,<br /><br />Haha, I think it's every responsible parent to think of having a child only when he/she is ready emotionally and financially :) You are not alone!<br /><br />Have you considered adoption? I know of a lecturer who is neither married nor attached, heterosexual, but prefers to have an adopted kid. She's not from singapore though, she's from France. She practically saved the baby from having a crueler life than if she had been born where she is.la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-63199067255591566382012-01-09T16:42:57.770+08:002012-01-09T16:42:57.770+08:00I know this is an old post but came across it and ...I know this is an old post but came across it and found it interesting.<br /><br />I too, want to have kids but I am neither married or attached.<br /><br />So, hmm.. what's my reasons? I would love to experience being a parent. But having said that, I'll only bring a child into the world after knowing I can provide sufficiently (in my own terms) for it.<br /><br />The grants, tax incentive etc. are just perks coz the "costs" may just outweigh these freebies.Meihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17279606964819238840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-28029430396750972512010-05-21T09:10:57.070+08:002010-05-21T09:10:57.070+08:00Hi anonymous,
Those who can already migrated. The...Hi anonymous,<br /><br />Those who can already migrated. There are always people who wish to migrate but cannot do so.la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-61501344346164041912010-05-21T01:03:18.961+08:002010-05-21T01:03:18.961+08:00Should the mentioned Push factors be implemented, ...Should the mentioned Push factors be implemented, sporeans might just migrate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-86775682238308265782010-05-17T11:49:02.357+08:002010-05-17T11:49:02.357+08:00Hi mm and mw,
Thanks for sharing your experiences...Hi mm and mw,<br /><br />Thanks for sharing your experiences with fatherhood with me :) I think I must look at more positive examples..been seeing all the bad cases of parenthood lately, so maybe that's why I'm getting worried.<br /><br />I guess I just have to trust that everything will turn out fine :)la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-13767366985237362152010-05-16T21:38:04.706+08:002010-05-16T21:38:04.706+08:00I'll keep it simple. Have kids - they make a v...I'll keep it simple. Have kids - they make a very great (and positive) difference to your life!<br /><br />I agree with MM - it's not about the money. Having kids is more than just money - it's commitment and time; but comes packaged with joy and laughter, happiness and fun too!<br /><br />Just my views.<br /><br />MusicwhizMusicwhizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10950754156386935254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-82474093867026802342010-05-16T18:25:48.411+08:002010-05-16T18:25:48.411+08:00LP,
Nobody is EVER ready to be a father, or mothe...LP,<br /><br />Nobody is EVER ready to be a father, or mother. <br /><br />But everyone can be a father or mother. But it takes a special person to be a DAD or a MUM. <br /><br />It took us 5 yrs to decide if we wanted to have one. Finally had one because of my mum. I must say its the single best decision we have ever made in both our lives. <br /><br />The boy brings me joy everyday. Its like being a child again when you have kids. You grow with them and figure things out along the way together. <br /><br />Its like seeing a "little you" again. Some1 you want to hold in your arms and cherish when they are young. Someone you can guide and transform into a responsible and kind child and adult when he/she grows up. <br /><br />I must also add that having a kid really improved the bond between my wife and I, not that we weren't close before that. But having a kid takes it to a whole new level. <br /><br />Of course there are screwed up parents, don't get me wrong. I also know of male relatives who screwed around after they had kids, resulting in the kid not having a father to grow up with. :(<br /><br />The joy of having kids cannot ever be explained on text or to a person who don't have any, it can only be experienced. :)<br /><br />I have a friend who has a MBA and double masters but has been sitting nicely at home taking care of her two princesses cos' she said that was the best decision for her. <br /><br />Its never the money. Ppe. worry too much. If you want the vacation every year, the ten thousand types of crap tuition like I can read, I can math or whatever I also can, then it can get REALLY expensive.... But do kids really need those? Or are the parents throwing money to hide their insecurities?<br /><br />Too much ramblings on a lazy Sunday evening. <br />Cheers,<br />mmmmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13283912423745820686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-35539657455629934112010-05-16T09:41:20.488+08:002010-05-16T09:41:20.488+08:00Hi bro8888,
Haha, while it seems I might sound su...Hi bro8888,<br /><br />Haha, while it seems I might sound suicidal and depressive in writing, the truth is that I'm very much pro-life :) Between jade and me, I think I'm the one who has to push for kids (she does not like them). It's true that sometimes I wonder why I'm born into this world but I am not a 'what-if' kind of person. I do live life as it is given to me and try to make the best out of it.<br /><br />What I'm trying to convey in the post is that having children is a heavy responsibility and should not be treated lightly. I've seen people who treated it lightly and hence regretted since. I've seen people screwing up the lives of their children too. I do not want to be such parents. Hence, a great amount of thought and consideration has to be done before having a kid. Do I have the means to support them? More imptly, do I have the attitude, commitment and responsibility to take care of them?<br /><br />Until I do, no way am I having a kid. The consequences is far to heavy to 'Just do it'.la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-77644024015504423822010-05-16T08:27:35.562+08:002010-05-16T08:27:35.562+08:00You said: "If you went through the system whi...You said: "If you went through the system while growing up and suffers through it, would you want your kids to go through the same routine? I have my reservations on that."<br /><br />I believe the key point is that you felt too strongly that life is suffering and want to discontinue it. Sometime you wish that you rather not born into this world. <br /><br />May be it is time for you to turn to teaching of Christ or Buddha to seek your answer to the meaning of suffering.CreateWealth8888https://www.blogger.com/profile/04870750974362417154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-45395143200951890992010-05-16T08:27:11.707+08:002010-05-16T08:27:11.707+08:00You said: "If you went through the system whi...You said: "If you went through the system while growing up and suffers through it, would you want your kids to go through the same routine? I have my reservations on that."<br /><br />I believe the key point is that you felt too strongly that life is suffering and want to discontinue it. Sometime you wish that you rather not born into this world. <br /><br />May be it is time for you to turn to teaching of Christ or Buddha to seek your answer to the meaning of suffering.CreateWealth8888https://www.blogger.com/profile/04870750974362417154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-31025266618183738732010-05-15T23:21:06.312+08:002010-05-15T23:21:06.312+08:00If everyone thinks of not having child. Humankind ...If everyone thinks of not having child. Humankind will be wiped in just less than 50 years.<br /><br />To continue the survival of mankind...it that a good enough reason to have kids? haha<br /><br />Dun mind my crap!!!Douhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10694404984460035958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-78082852399442430552010-05-15T22:12:03.617+08:002010-05-15T22:12:03.617+08:00Hey bro8888,
Ya, I heard of that. But I would rat...Hey bro8888,<br /><br />Ya, I heard of that. But I would rather not have any than to rush through the decision. It's only fair for the kid.<br /><br />I've to get used to each other's routine in a new home for 1-2 yrs first, then will try for a baby. If we're ready by then and we can't, then so be it. This way is better than have a baby first, then realise we can't handle it.la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-14140354511754695652010-05-15T22:02:08.707+08:002010-05-15T22:02:08.707+08:00There is not much time left to think over whether ...There is not much time left to think over whether you want or not as age is catching up. Couple can't never be sure whether can produce baby or not.CreateWealth8888https://www.blogger.com/profile/04870750974362417154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-51454972719470561892010-05-15T21:51:46.273+08:002010-05-15T21:51:46.273+08:00Hi qinzheng and royston,
Hmm, I'm not THAT pe...Hi qinzheng and royston,<br /><br />Hmm, I'm not THAT pessimistic. I'm just saying that having a kid needs to be thought out carefully. I would not want to have a kid where the sole reason is that it's natural.<br /><br />I do want to experience parenthood. But until I'm sure I'm responsible enough and ready to commit, I would not do it. <br /><br />And Royston, thanks for sharing your thoughts on your parenthood :) I believe you it's a rewarding process :)la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-74919789480173880662010-05-15T21:49:49.529+08:002010-05-15T21:49:49.529+08:00Hi bro8888,
What happens if I accidentally make o...Hi bro8888,<br /><br />What happens if I accidentally make one? If it's now, I would have kept it since I'm more or less ready for a kid. If it's when I'm much younger, I might have it aborted.<br /><br />This is to reply AK and bro8888 - I do not think marriage is for the kids only. I want to give my wife legitimacy too. More importantly, I wanted to have the experience of holding a marriage with someone I love. <br /><br />And yes, marriage is also for the hdb grant.la papillionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01372278083694506953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-12123910741089731032010-05-15T18:44:12.995+08:002010-05-15T18:44:12.995+08:00CW is right. Marriage is for the children. It give...CW is right. Marriage is for the children. It gives them legitimacy.AK71https://www.blogger.com/profile/16832145412062954289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-83187892950715017192010-05-15T17:51:01.173+08:002010-05-15T17:51:01.173+08:00Do you need a family or you just need a life partn...Do you need a family or you just need a life partner? <br /><br />If both couple agree to be each other life partner instead of having a family, then there is no need to be legally married.<br /><br />or be a married couple to get HDB grant?CreateWealth8888https://www.blogger.com/profile/04870750974362417154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-53528465441003392562010-05-15T16:35:39.634+08:002010-05-15T16:35:39.634+08:00Hey LP,
I think that thinking kids come to this w...Hey LP,<br /><br />I think that thinking kids come to this world to suffer is just too negative...i'm sure we all have our fair share of problems and such. Kids today also face alot of stress and pressure. But, i'm sure amidst all these pressure, problems, etc...there are many kids who find pleasure and meaning in their lives. <br /><br />As a young father myself, its satisfying to see your kid grow day by day...and learning new things everyday. Its by no means an easy task to take care of a child...and you'll just have to ask yourself if you can commit to such a responsibility. But i can assure you its a highly rewarding process if you do decide to commit one day. ;)Roystonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17883963186215315521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-20468196325640879922010-05-15T11:51:10.529+08:002010-05-15T11:51:10.529+08:00personally i also share the same thoughts as you, ...personally i also share the same thoughts as you, and i really do not wish to have kids! y want to let them suffer the things that we have gone through?qinzhenghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05876552543919115422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37872616.post-71941258388969328522010-05-15T08:54:11.308+08:002010-05-15T08:54:11.308+08:00What will you do if you accidentally make one?What will you do if you accidentally make one?Createwealth8888https://www.blogger.com/profile/08563834016250153049noreply@blogger.com