The book mentioned about having quality offense and quality defense when playing this game of financial freedom. One of the couple, usually the male, would play good offense. They would go out and earn a lot of income. It's mentioned that most of these millionaires interviewed have higher household income than average too - so that's the offensive side. The spouse, usually the wife, would stay at home and play quality defense. They are the ones who would manage the household, making sure that as a whole family, they not only stay within budget but way below their income. That's the kind of tag team playing that I found it interesting.
It's hard to say who is more frugal - me or my wife. For the little things (those that cost less than $50), I'm the more frugal ones. I always have to remind my wife not to overspend on such things. However, for big ticket items, my wife is the more frugal one. She would have to remind me that even though I have the means to afford, we should still be careful on how we spend it. For the recent resale flat purchase, I have to convince and reassure her that the 40k cov is worth the money. Same thing goes for the renovation. I guess my wife and I are not spendthrifts and each of us are more frugal than the other depending on the amount spent! That makes us a compatible tag team partners because we defend each other weak points, haha!
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On the flip side, it's very hard to be financially free if your spouse do not support the idea. The journey towards it involves making sacrifices now so as to enjoy greater rewards in the future. Not everyone wants to reach the end point, that I understand. If one of the couple wants to climb a mountain, the other has to belay the ropes and egg each other on, supporting and encouraging each other along the way. If there is only one person actively climbing the mountain, the other would drag along and act as a complaining dead-weight behind you as you climb. It's still possible to make it to the top, of course, but it makes the journey unbearably difficult.
Thus for those of you who so desire to reach the top of the mountain, choose your other half wisely. Pick the characteristics of the person that you think would aid you, for I believe that a marriage is like a partnership - it should benefit both parties, and not just to one only (or worse - none). Choose a tag team partner that you can synergise with - if you play quality offense, pick someone who play quality defense for instance. You can't pick both who play good offense (because you might spend all that you earn), nor both who play good defense (because playing defensively all the time might take too slow to reach the end). When all the beautiful face and great body fades away with age, what is it that still endears you to your spouse?
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